The idea you talk about where you must control the discourse I totally agree with. You cannot expect wimminz to TELL YOU that she likes it up the arse, you have to be a leader. If you tell her that YOU like it then if she likes you she will do it… SIMPLE!

Most PUA types talk about this kind of stuff and give it all sorts of pseudo scientific terms but it all boils down to the same thing.

Have you read the principles of social competence? Read it (leave your ego at the door, readers lol) and see if you can relate it to your own experiences.