Wimminz – celebrating skank ho's everywhere

I do not want to come across as giving the impression that I am up my ass, a self made man to be in awe of, or any of that crap… I do OK, but beyond that it kinda depends what ruler you use to measure me with, and there are a lot that you could use that I would come up short on.

To be fair to myself I don’t care about those rulers, and the ones that I do care about, I come up Ok on, for example I am in the distinct minority when I say that one of my most important rulers is being 100% debt free, no loans, no mortgages, no car leases, no hire purchase, no store cards, I 100% own 100% of my shit, so it doesn’t matter to me that my shit is a 15 year old car and not a 1 year old car, those are my rulers.

There is a lot of traction to the idea that to be successful, you have to be constantly poised to strike like a cobra, and when you are not striking like a cobra (and never missing) you have to be as industrious as a termite colony, and I get that, but experience tells me otherwise, experience tells me that there is a huge value to simple indolence.

The termite / cobra crew will call me lazy, or words to that effect, after all, I have been in and around IT pretty much as long as it is possible to be in and around it, yet where is all my crypto?

I DID hear about bitcoin when it came out, and in those days I did have enough processor cycles in three PC’s that ran 24/7 to have crafted a decent sized stash at no real effort and no real cost, but… I didn’t….

Nor did I find an entire class of kindergarten girls and start raising / grooming them, in the hope that one day 20 or so years later one of them will have matured into something that I would consider a suitable candidate for wife 1.0

Nor did I do many other things, and the reason throughout was indolence, I see the value of sitting here and chilling and thinking and relaxing and doing my own thing, to expend more energy than that, I need to see immediate or longer term but attainable gains.

If you’re seeing parallels to pre historic human behaviors, the hunter who was content to sit and watch and wait, since the fish farm means he ain’t hungry right now, you’d be right.

In my day job pretty much all the “must move now” circumstances that surround me are created by others, and when I say created I mean created, they do not need to exist, when it takes pen pushers three months to come up with a document / contract, all idea of urgency go out the window for me, and in fact any pressure to sign it is seen by me as artificial urgency, so I’m going to take my time and read it over about an extra six times, just to be sure… I do not know how often in my life I have been presented with literal “you must sign it now or lose the opportunity deals”.. I have never signed any of them, and yet, here I am still. Not signing them didn’t fuck me up.

I was thirty before I got married for the first (and only) time, more indolence, and though I say so myself, though it ended two years later, I can’t honestly say it was a huge source of regret, I can’t say it was great either, but it doesn’t count as one of the bigger mistakes of my life, whereas the psycho skank ho ex does, and even there, indolence saved me from making it far far worse that it could have been.

If I look back at what 75% of young lads were doing chasing ass in the late seventies, 100% of that 75% would today be firmly within the definition of sexual abusers, fact is so would the 75% of girls they associated with, were the law applied equally, but there we go..

… so there was a significant period of a decade or so where the “late starters” like me got to watch the 75% who went out and got girlfriends and moved in and got married and got a mortgage and got pregnant and all that stuff…

Whether it actually was or not, you could make the argument that we were the ones walking down the street like tramps looking in through the plate glass windows at all the happy homes and happy shopping stores and all the other good stuff that we were not a part of, it didn’t FEEL like that, I may not have wanted the street, but I didn’t want what I saw through those windows either, I wanted something else…

And then a funny thing happens, “why the hell aren’t you married? are you a fag?” starts to turn in to “you know, I envy you, don’t get married..” because the indolence in not being part of the 75% meant freedom to do other things… sure, Julie may not be much, but I can fuck her, and I can break up with her and fuck Jane, who also ain’t much, but YOU can’t, your ever loving wife would fucking kill you, and suddenly all the raucous enervated invigorated early adopter 75% are sat there making up reasons to put up with shit “because it would upset her indoors, and she will make my life hell”

The 5% who made the 75% look indolent were on their third marriage by this time… nuff said…

Being indolent also means you get a LOT, and I mean a LOT, of moments in your life where you think to yourself, thank fuck I wasn’t all eager beaver to dive into that shit show when the bright and shiny opportunity first showed itself…

It is basically giving yourself time, I can’t and won’t go into details, but the way of things in the western world and civilization and business nowadays is you really do not want all your eggs in one basket, you need a Plan B, because you cannot trust everyone else including the state to play fair and honestly and above board with Plan A, so because I am indolent I let some things sit for a while, no benefit to me to commit myself on paper too early, because once you do that there is no backing out, and today in the post Plan B that I started a few weeks ago landed, and suddenly I am no longer in the same place that I would be had I only Plan A to hand…

I learned this one many years ago, I’ll change all the names, but we’ll call the guy Mitch, and Mitch had a business that we will call Cagliari Car Hire on the island of Sardinia, and like with all things, after a few years of trading Mitch would tell anyone who would listen, if I could go back in time, I would not do everything the same, I’d make some changes… no big deal… so Mitch finds himself in a place where the local parasites, namely government and tax officials and lawyers and accountants, have the upper hand and can bleed him dry and treat him like dirt, sure Mitch, you need X and X is going to take 12 weeks to do and it will cost you a thousand bucks, what you gonna do, walk away from your business? lol.

So without telling anyone, Mitch starts another company, Sardinia Car Hire, so if he wanted to he could sell all the assets and vehicles that Cagliari Car Hire owns to Sardinia Car Hire for one dollar, sure, he has some rebranding to do, but everything else is in place to go, his customers aren’t going to give a fuck… same vehicles, same terms, same prices, same guy they are dealing with…

Suddenly in his meetings with the parasites, Mitch is not the guy with no power, truth has a certain ring to it, and Mitch can say “tell you what, you get this contract and paperwork all done by Friday, or I’ll fold the company 6pm Friday, and none of you gets paid for anything” because Mitch knows come 6.01 pm Friday Sardinia Car Hire can step in and take over. This is Mitch’s Plan B, and as soon as he invokes it, he makes Plan C.

Mitch never did invoke Plan b, he didn’t have to, the mere presence and option of a Plan B altered his opportunities, which altered how he dealt with the parasites.

I knew “Mitch” personally quite well, he stressed one single point to me, if you are bullshitting in the slightest about having Plan B in place, they will know, it’s instinctive with parasites, and they will fuck you up even more than if you just bend over and took it on Plan A… and then he said no, actually there isn’t one vital lesson here, there are two, the second one is giving yourself enough space and freedom and time to come up with a Plan B

Being indolent in other words.

I know people in business here in the UK who have problems with their company, with their accountants, with the VAT, with their bankers, with their insurers, with their alarm company, etc etc etc.

I can’t think of a single instance, not one, where creating a new thing is not faster than fixing the old thing…. friend of mine was having issues with their business banking, so I said open a new business banking account, he said no, takes too long, it will be two to three weeks what with all the money laundering bullshit and ID checks and all the rest of the shit, that was two months ago, he is still with the same bank, and still having problems…

There is zero incentive for the bank or anyone else to fix shit if you aren’t going to walk, unless you can present the parasite with a credible threat to kill the host unless they start behaving, they have no incentive to behave.

If you were one of the 75% who rushed off to get a girl pregnant at 16 and marry the bitch you probably won’t get any of this, if you are one of the 25% who just didn’t see the rush…. there is hope for you yet…

You are in the position of the guy with *two* part time girlfriends, and one of them threatens to cut you off from access to the cunt, unless you put and ring on it…. this is what Plan B is in sexual terms…. whereas serial monogamy is Plan A… you don’t have a backup.

If you act like the cobra and the termites trying to get your Plan B in place and have a string of wimminz on the go, changes are they are all going to get to know each other and team up to fuck you over, because you did not take the time to sit back and relax and chill and watch the territory for traps.

it’s a bit like the old joke about the young bull and the old bull, the young bull wants to run over and fuck something, the old bull says nah, amble over all casual like and take our time and fuck everything.

The young person and the cobra / termite person will hear one joke.

The indolent bastard will hear quite a different joke.

They may both laugh, that doesn’t mean they are sharing the same joke.

I often talk about the benefits of age and experience, but the fact is, age does NOT equal experience, you have to have a certain amount of indolence, which you use to relax and observe and think, before the experience will come.

Anyway, my Plan B landed in full fruition today, and being indolent, I made another coffee and had a another smoke and sat down and blogged about it, no rush, no panic over, no sudden release of pressure, because I allowed myself time, and the greatest weapon that gives me is against all the cobras and termites and parasites, they are not indolent, they do not give themselves time, time works against them, rust never sleeps.

My Plan B wasn’t a just in time last minute salvation, it was sitting around a couple of months ago and seeing that if I wasn’t careful, I could find myself in a one way street in a few months, if I didn’t have an alternative already in place.

Think about this, we do not even make motor cars from new off the showroom floor with a Plan B in place, we USED to, there was a full size full spec spare, a good jack, a good wheel brace, and everyone knew how to change a spare tyre.

Guy I know just leased a new 40k vehicle, he raves about the bluetooth connectivity and the seating capacity and 99 other things that will largely never get used to 5% capacity, and somewhere in the back is a stowaway 40 mph spare, a weedy jack, a weedy tire iron that will bend before it undoes anything done up with a windy gun on max torque (which they all are) , and guess what, the fancy locking wheel nut adapter is already missing, presumably nicked at the first service… you also need a special lead (not supplied as standard) to access the battery to jump start it.. his Plan B is the fucking AA, assuming he has cell coverage when it happens, who will change the tire 2 hours later when they eventually get to him, and he has to get himself to a tire shop at 40 mph,  when one opens, because he only has a stowaway… I have a proper tire iron, a proper jack, and a proper full size full spec spare, worst case scenario is I’ll get wet and cold for 10 minutes before continuing my journey… I’ll still arrive on time.

Me, the indolent one, won’t get panicked and stressed when a flat happens, I’ll be all awww shit, bummer… it doesn’t take huge intellectual power to come up with a Plan B, ***if*** you are indolent and give yourself time and space to think and analyze.