This one comes up regularly in conversations, so time to put it here.
It doesn’t matter if it is on a fucking site, PoF, okcupid, fuckbook, a job interview, or real life.
You can give it any fucking trendy name you like, your account, your profile, your CV, your party hat on… it doesn’t make any odds, what you are doing is writing an advert…. this leads to options… Person A who is honest, and Person B who is dishonest.
- Advert is true
- Person A visits advert and likes it
- Game on
- Person A visits advert and doesn’t like it
- Game over, you aren’t compatible, no sale today
- Person B visits advert and likes it
- Game over, they are dishonest, you won’t like the price
- Person B visits advert and doesn’t like it
- Game over, you are honest, they don’t like the price
- Person A visits advert and likes it
- Advert is false
- Person A visits advert and likes it
- Game over, your deception will be revealed
- Person A visits advert and doesn’t like it
- Game over, you aren’t compatible, no sale ever
- Person B visits advert and likes it
- Game on/over, you’ll make the sale, sure, but you’ll regret it, deeply.
- Person B visits advert and doesn’t like it
- Game over, you’re a liar, so are they, no foundation of trust, no sale
- Person A visits advert and likes it
So, out of 8 possible outcomes;
- One (1.1.1) gets you the “sale”, ching ching. Je ne regret rien.
- One (2.3.1) gets you the “sale”, brick in an iPad carton.
- One (1.2.1) doesn’t get the sale, but doesn’t alienate the other person.
- Five are no sale, a waste of effort.
If you aren’t getting (1.1.1) in whatever endeavour you are doing, say getting laid on a fucking site, then that is TRUE market forces at work, your honestly marketed product is not desired, even if it is free (like Linux)
If you attempt to change the advert to get a sale then you’re (2.3.1) you changed yourself from an honest vendor to a dishonest vendor, and no honest buyer will ever want to know you again, what’s perhaps more pertinent is you can never make another honest sale, honest buyers who are looking for what you really are will be put off by your advert, which saying something else entirely about you, and there is no way to say hey, wait a minute, none of this is true, I was only trying to make a sale here…
Item 4 above, the other five are no sale, a waste of effort, well, it is no effort at all to set your stall out honestly, it is just being you, take it or leave it, but it is a lot of effort, and an ongoing effort, to maintain an illusion.
Maintaining the illusion and making no sale is a monster waste of effort, but, it is better than maintaining the illusion and selling the brick in the iPad box, one is un-interested potential buyers, the other is someone you ripped off, even if they also paid you in counterfeit notes… y’all richly deserve each other.
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Like I say, this doesn’t apply just to one small area of your life like getting laid.
Do *****NOT***** confuse this with those who are marketing the illusion, and who also say “fuck ya if ya don’t take me as I am, I ain’t changing for no-one” s these are just people who are more in love with their own delusions than with making an honest sale.
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ALL your problems start from an initial assumption that you aren’t worth shit if you haven’t made a sale, you are a failure, a loser, a beta, a nobody, yadda yadda yadda.
As a potential employee there have been situations where potential employers could use me, but were not prepared to pay me what I thought my labour was worth, this doesn’t make me unemployable, they still have the vacancy and I still have my labour to sell.
I have some machine tools that I attempted to sell on fleabay, I put a fair minimum price on them, I didn’t make a sale, I still have them.
I *could* have made a sale, one guy came around and would have given me 50 cents on the dollar and I would have made a sale, but I chose not to, I actually ended up spending more money on the items to get them better than they were and kept them.
At 50c on the $ I would have considered myself exploited, I’d rather give them away or sell for scrap.
This, essentially, is why I am a single man.
My time and interest and effort and loyalty are indeed for sale, I just can’t get any interest in this market at the minimum prices that I am prepared to open negotiations and start haggling at.
I had one guy say to me, “there is this chick on a fucking site, I’d give it one and all that, but she is overweight and has a list of demands that the guy is at least six foot yadda yadda yadda…. how do I deal with that?”
It’s simple, you don’t. she falls into one or more of the (2.x.x) series of options above, no good can come of it, the best possible scenario is you use some forged currency to buy a brick in an iPad box, but the chances are you’ll be spending real money, so it’s even worse.
You know, this is what red pill / MGTOW is *really* all about, it is about not contaminating yourself by associating with liars, and not being a liar yourself, or to yourself, or about yourself.
And yes, this includes whatever you do for 40 hours a week to earn a crust.
You cunts need to learn the difference between COMPROMISE and NEGOTIATION.
Red pill doesn’t fucking compromise, the two are mutually exclusive.
I am open to negotiation, but not compromise, and that makes me “no sale” to 99.9% of the planet, including wimminz and niggerz and employers.
Sadly, even modern dictionaries have re-defined the word, so here it is, the essential difference, because both words are broadly similar and broadly involve two parties in discussion on a given subject.
In a NEGOTIATION there is no expectation of any kind that an agreement between the two parties will be found. Rather, the discussions centre around exploring the possibility that such an agreement can be made.
In a COMPROMISE either such an agreement has already been made, or both parties are working under the assumption that such an agreement is the end goal.
You can say “You have compromised yourself by taking that money from Luigi”
You cannot say “You have negotiated yourself by taking that money from Luigi”
I just spent 15 minutes on-line trying to find a link to a site that did not confabulate the two UTTERLY disparate and separate things into one, and failed… My print edition 1950’s Oxford dictionary had no problems whatsoever differentiating the two, though to be fair http://oxforddictionaries.com/ makes a fair attempt at it, and neither definition mentions the other one, which is as it should be.
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The only form of compromise that is acceptable to a red pill man is the sort I made recently with the Noo Pee Cee build, I had to compromise between the spec I would like to build and the money I wanted to spend…. eg one I make with myself, because I can usually trust myself to play both sides of the argument fairly.
Any outside (of me) agency that has as its starting point that I must make some compromise, is kept outside the perimeter of my life, and that is NOT negotiable mother-fucker.
